Have you found your passion -– that special something that lights you up?
Passion comes from a feeling that you are part of something you believe in, something bigger than yourself. To conjure this feeling, you need to know yourself and know what you want.
1. Know yourself
When you meet someone for the first time do you introduce yourself by your job title, or who you are in relation to others (e.g. wife, mother, daughter)? All of those things are outside of you. You need to look within to discover who you are.
So take a moment to think about you and what lights you up. Maybe you’re sitting there thinking you aren’t passionate about anything. But c’mon - there’s always something that you love to do, something that you are really interested in, even something that makes you really mad might be a passion! Or maybe you are passionate about lots of things and can’t make up your mind. There’s no rule that says you can’t have more than one passion or the kind of passion that brings you many different interests and takes you on many different adventures.
If you are open to knowing yourself more deeply, and if you are on the lookout for some thing more meaningful in your life, your passion will reveal itself.
2. Know what you want
This sounds deceivingly simple. But how often have you done something that you think you should do, or that others have said you should do, instead of what you want to do? I think we do this for one of two reasons:
- Women are taught from a young age that our identity and self-worth comes from how others perceive us. So we put others and their needs before our own. We are desperate to be that “good” employee/daughter/girlfriend/wife/friend/mother. Over time, this so-called “selflessness” becomes destructive as you run around trying to please everyone (which is impossible). You forget who you are and what you wanted in the first place.
- You make hundreds of decisions every day, big and small, from what to wear, to what to eat, to how to deal with your boss shouting at you over a mistake you made. It’s overwhelming. So we resort to not thinking for ourselves, to switching off and just going with whatever other people want because it seems easier at the time. But again, when you are making all of these decisions that have nothing to do with what you want (how many times have you said yes to something when really you meant “HELL, NO”) you become stressed and anxious as you move further away from who you are and what you want.
So remember that it’s your life and no one else’s. The next time you need to make a decision, replace what you think (or what others think) you “should” do with what you WANT to do. Take a big deep breath and say “what do I want?” When you take the time to LISTEN to your body and your soul things will become startlingly clear.