I’m so sorry you haven’t heard from me in a few weeks, I’ve been busy getting married, travelling to London and celebrating with good friends who are visiting from Australia. Thank you for your lovely well-wishes for my wedding. It was a super amazing day, we had so much fun! Here are a few pics from the day.
Not only did many of you write to me to congratulate me, many of you told me how you’ve personally struggled with the need to seek approval from others. One reader wrote:
One of our primary fears is not being loved or liked. In the corporate world, this fear applies especially to women in leadership positions. We don't want to be seen as "aggressive" or "bossy" or a bitch - all those tropes about women in power that don't apply to men. Also, it's nice to be liked! I think many women make strong leaders because of their collaborative style. But seeking input and advice through collaboration is different from not making decisions unless you have the approval of others. Such people-pleasing gets in the way of getting sh*t done and takes up a huge amount of time and energy.
Another reader shared her personal story of making a big decision when others in her life did not approve:
Be the woman who goes her own way. You never know who might be watching - like this reader who told me: